Thread: Underage Drinking

How are the kids getting fake ID's these days? Is it just like in the movies where some creepy dude makes them in his parent's basement? When I was a minor, the only people that had fakes that I knew about were those who just got one from somebody who looked very much like them.

This question probably seems pretty random, but a minor I know has died an alcohol related death, and I made the mistake of reading every article I could find online about it, along with reader comments. There is much debate over the bartender's responsibility to #1 spot a fake ID and #2 determine when to stop serving.

I come from the school of thought of personal responsibility as the biggest issue with it all, but had she killed anyone but herself, then I think I would feel more culpability lies with the bartender.

I am feeling anxiety as I am so fearful of my son turning 16 and riding with friends and the chance of him driving drunk or riding with a drunk driver. I wish there was a magic way of knowing I could convince him how terrible all of that is.

you can get them off the internet.Heck I just googled it and it would scare you as a parent how many listings came up!!

As the mother of an underage drinker, I can tell you, you never quit worrying.
My son is 37 now. The call that I had expected most of his life came Aug 12,08. It was not a surprise call, it was a finally here call and it came from hhis wife to tell me he'd had a wreck 80 miles from home. I could write a whole book about underage drinking. You can talk until your head turns backward and they are going to do what they want to do. I can tell you that peer pressure is very very strong. My son was alone, going 140 in his BMW driving to his sisters 100 miles away. He is my miracle. God saved him for a reason but so far He has not shown us what or why. No one else was involved. He was taken to a hospital and declared DOA but they found life signs and transferred him to a trama center. Yes he was 36 when this happened and was thinking suicidal thoughts while driving but this all started years ago. He prefers prescription drugs over alcohol but uses alcohol when he can't legally get the drugs. I have hinted at this on here but never came out and said it. As for people with alcohol and drug abuse problems, they are someone's child and there is a mother and father out there who love them dearly. My son has been a bartender too and he says the fake ID's out now are so good you can't tell them. Think of the technology today that we have.
Even parents who thought they were doing the right thing by having the kids drink at their house in a safe environment are now finding themselves in trouble with the law. I don't know the answer either but I do wonder if a man is old enough to die for his country, maybe he should be old enough to drink. That is not the same thing as being mature enough. But I don't think the babies dying for our country are mature enough either.

When I was in school there was a guy a couple years under me that would make them at home on his computer. LOTS of kids had them, I never did, or needed too. But a good computer program can make them. This was 16 years ago, so one could only imagine how easy it is now....

Originally Posted by buglebe

As the mother of an underage drinker, I can tell you, you never quit worrying.
My son is 37 now. The call that I had expected most of his life came Aug 12,08. It was not a surprise call, it was a finally here call and it came from hhis wife to tell me he'd had a wreck 80 miles from home. I could write a whole book about underage drinking. You can talk until your head turns backward and they are going to do what they want to do. I can tell you that peer pressure is very very strong. My son was alone, going 140 in his BMW driving to his sisters 100 miles away. He is my miracle. God saved him for a reason but so far He has not shown us what or why. No one else was involved. He was taken to a hospital and declared DOA but they found life signs and transferred him to a trama center. Yes he was 36 when this happened and was thinking suicidal thoughts while driving but this all started years ago. He prefers prescription drugs over alcohol but uses alcohol when he can't legally get the drugs. I have hinted at this on here but never came out and said it. As for people with alcohol and drug abuse problems, they are someone's child and there is a mother and father out there who love them dearly. My son has been a bartender too and he says the fake ID's out now are so good you can't tell them. Think of the technology today that we have.
Even parents who thought they were doing the right thing by having the kids drink at their house in a safe environment are now finding themselves in trouble with the law. I don't know the answer either but I do wonder if a man is old enough to die for his country, maybe he should be old enough to drink. That is not the same thing as being mature enough. But I don't think the babies dying for our country are mature enough either.

Thank you so much for your honesty in telling your story, and sharing information. Amazing that your son was spared, and hopefully he finds it within himself to make good choices.