Urban Cowgirl

While I can certainly see your point...I am a very emotional person. I think keeping something like that would just keep reminding me of my loved ones death, not their life. For me I'd probably cry everytime I looked at it....it just wouldn't be healthy for me.

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catssass

OK, I am back from scattering the ashes, it was interesting... the ashes are actually in a plastic bag, with a zip tie type closer, so the urn stays clean, we went to a river that my Dad spent alot of time on, there were more ashes than I thought but all in all it was nice...
... still not sure what I am going to with the urn, I know I don't want to keep it, too depressing, it is a beautiful urn though

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buglebe

My mother in law and grandmother both arrived by mail in a cardboard box! Truth.
Our grandmother arrived at my parents house while my sister was still there just days after having her son. He was born on the day my grandmother died.

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dv8grl

When I had my dad cremated, they put him in a plastic bag inside a cardboard box.

I placed his ashes in TampaBay.

If I had an urn, I'd use it to put little knick-knacks of his I have, Zippos, Jewlery, etc..

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Army-Mom

I am sorry for your loss..

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4diego

I got an urn from a friend who was into antiques. I lost an infant daughter right after birth and the funeral home handed her to me in an envelope, honestly. I was pretty upset by it and we didn't have any money to buy an urn. My friend had one for an infant and it was a real blessing to receive it. So I would vote for finding someone that could really use it! And sorry for your loss but glad that your dad isn't in anymore pain.

freeplease

Maybe you could contact your local VFW. I'm sure there are some veterans who pass, and the families don't have a lot of money to buy an urn. Since the ashes don't come into contact with the urn, (plastic bags), I see no reason why it couldn't be "re-homed".

hotwheelstx

I'm sorry for your loss. If it were me I would keep the urn and put keepsakes in it and put it away. You wouldn't have to look at it, think about it that way.

My mother wasn't cremated but her visitation book, lock of her hair, thank you cards, visitation cards I packed in a box and put it in my closet.

I couldn't sell/give away something like that.

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Anniston

I am sorry for your loss and it sounds like his ashes were put in a very meaningful place. What a way to honor him on Father's Day. Bless your heart.

Some people are the type to hold on to things like that. Others, like yourself, don't want it around. If you are sure you don't want it around, I would call a local funeral director and ask him to refer you to a family who would want/need it. My beautiful mother's remains sit inside a small, sealed box that they arrived in due to how expensive urns are. I would think that a family in your area would love to be offered such a beautiful gift from you.

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fleabones3

I agree with the others. If you cant emotionally handle looking at, and dont want to keep it put up somewhere where you dont have to see it daily, find someone in need and donate it to them. Its ridiculous how much urns are. When my hubbys 21 yr old cousin was murdered ( suicide to the dumbazz cops here, although he was shot in back of neck) we had to come up $800 for a urn before they would even release his body. Thankfully, hubby had bought me a mothers ring that we were still paying on. We had got into a fight and I got the money back on the ring that day... hours later Nate was dead and we used that cash to help buy the urn.

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catssass

Thank you all so much for your replies, I think I found someone who can use it, hopefully not for a long time..

Pam

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