Thread: I just don't understand...

I see the posts on here of the husbands who got their wives nothing... and I just don't get it.... and I am not talking about the ones where they mutually agreed not to buy for each other... my hubby and I do that just about every year..lol.... I am talking about the ones.. whose wife bought them things.. and got up yesterday morning to nothing... not a card.. not a gift... not a hunny I love you but couldn't afford anything...

that seems so odd to me... and I have to wonder about the man's view on his wife and marriage when he is able to do that like it is no big deal....

I agree as well. It is very foreign to me. I can't imagine my DH and I not discussing whether on we're exchanging presents. Every family is different but it seems sad to me to me to see people's Christmas being a disappointment because their spouse ignores it without so much as a hug.

Well I agree its awful for a husband (or wife) to purposefully hurt someones feelings by not getting them a gift but I think its worse when someone DOES get a gift and then complains that not enough money was spent. Price just does not matter when the ultimate price was already paid.

To many people have forgotten the reason for the season.

That was my Dad......(both my parents are deceased).....I can count on one hand how many times he ever made any effort to give my mother a gift for holidays, anniversary or birthdays.....and that includes flowers.....

They loved each other....he was just a thoughtless slug.....they were married nearly 50 years...

Originally Posted by speedygirl

I agree as well. It is very foreign to me. I can't imagine my DH and I not discussing whether on we're exchanging presents. Every family is different but it seems sad to me to me to see people's Christmas being a disappointment because their spouse ignores it without so much as a hug.

I know... it just blows my mind to have a spouse ignore it... its not like they could have forgotten.. ya know?

gift exchanges between families... or friends... thats different... you decide to either do it or not... gift exchanges that you enter that have a set $ amount.. should be followed... and above all.. if your going to take the time to give... give something for that person.. that they will like or need.... these are different than getting something for your husband or wife....

a simple card from the heart could have prevented so many hurt feelings this Christmas....

Originally Posted by pepperpot

That was my Dad......(both my parents are deceased).....I can count on one hand how many times he ever made any effort to give my mother a gift for holidays, anniversary or birthdays.....and that includes flowers.....

They loved each other....he was just a thoughtless slug.....they were married nearly 50 years...

first..lol.. love the slug image..lol

I can understand a man forgetting a birthday or anniversary... but Christmas? I mean its everywhere..lol

Originally Posted by dangerousfem

first..lol.. love the slug image..lol

I can understand a man forgetting a birthday or anniversary... but Christmas? I mean its everywhere..lol

See 'forgetting' implies that one actually put an effort into trying to 'remember'.....I guess he thought he never 'had to' since she 'knew' how he felt about her.........I guess it was en era........he was 'allowed' to be a slug (she 'accepted' it), so he was....he was a thoughtless slug....

And BTW, it carried over not only to his wife, but to his kids.....he just didn't feel/think he 'had to'....:...they 'knew' how he felt...

I get where your coming from. I would be upset. I know guys are not usually good at shopping. And you usually get things that really you would have never bought yourself. But I believe its the thought that counts and when you get nothing that tells me what kind of thoughts he had.
DH and I didn't exchange gifts again this year. But we both decided on that. And yes money has been MIA from this house too lol.
I am so thankful that I either won all the gifts we gave this year, or I made them myself. Hopefully I have an even better year for contests. Granted they may not be what you wanted, but each thing I win I have someone in mind. I can't wait till I get a big win. Someone is going to get a gift that they will never forget lol. And I love making gifts. I put love into each and everything I make. I think the homemade gifts are the best.

You know what would be a great gift from the hubbies out there? They could do the dishes after dinner. Now there is something we wouldn't expect LOL.

LOL.. now that would be an awesome gift.... heck I would take that gift from my kids..lol.. whoever.. not picky as long as someone besides me does them..lol

Well I guess I am one lucky woman because not only did I get gifts but he did all the dishes yesterday AND this morning. Now we are getting ready to go out for dinner.

I consider myself lucky as well.....my dh spoils me at Christmas and all through the year....He doesnt bring home flowers, in the going on 18 years of marriage I have recieved flowers maybe 3 times lol, that doesnt bother me, I just find it funny and joke about it, but he gets me little things here and there, takes me to dinner and shopping quite often and he brings home a iced coffee every day for me cuz he knows I enjoy one after dinner.......I also do for him in little exchanges as well......I could never image not getting a gift at Christmas from him...we have been dirt poor and struggling in the past and he always managed to get me something.....so I do really feel sorry for those that dont have thoughtful spouses......a card, a kiss, candybar or something to just let them know they have been thought of is all that is needed in my opinion