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Re: Update!!! I found my son!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Go for full custody, just so he doesn't have to deal with that, poor kid. I am so glad that you found him, best news I've heard in awhile. You must be floating right now, congratulations now enjoy every minute you have with him!
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05-14-2005 04:42 PM
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Re: Update!!! I found my son!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
What did I miss about his knees? 16 yos should have very healthy knees, young & strong bones & muscles.
Sounds like neglect on his father's part to me too.
Keep us posted.
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Re: Update!!! I found my son!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Originally Posted by
NL1720
NL..ask your son straight out if he wants to live with you....it does sound like he has been neglected and now that the 2 of you have found each other...don't let him get away...put the offer on the table to your son that you would love for him to live with you and THEN let him make the decision. That boy is your blood..you are his mother..you need to take a stand in his defense if he is being mistreated..it's your job to look after him and protect him...go for custody .
A wise man once said - if given enough rope, one will eventually hang themself
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Re: Update!!! I found my son!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Originally Posted by
lassss
NL..ask your son straight out if he wants to live with you....it does sound like he has been neglected and now that the 2 of you have found each other...don't let him get away...put the offer on the table to your son that you would love for him to live with you and THEN let him make the decision. That boy is your blood..you are his mother..you need to take a stand in his defense if he is being mistreated..it's your job to look after him and protect him...go for custody .
I did ask him and he doesn't have any plans to move. I wish he would because we can take much better care of him here. I'm going to work on getting him added to our insurance so he can get the medical care he needs for his knees. I don't know what is wrong with them and he don't know either. All he was told by his gym teacher was that he needs to build up more muscle tissue on his knee caps - those tend to slide around. My DD just went through that surgery this past January on one of her knees and she's all better now. But back to what I was saying: I think he has no intensions of moving because he has alot of friends where he is and with his dad not caring, he pretty much comes and goes as he pleases. He's been know to stay at his friend's houses for a few weeks. My guess is that the friend's parents know somewhat of the circumstances he has at home. We live about 35 miles away/40 minutes away from where he lives now. I would let him have those freedoms but he doesn't want to move. I'll just have to take this one day at a time (with very much worry and concern). He knows to call me ASAP if there's any trouble at home and I will come get him. I will also be speaking with my lawyer come Monday about this and see what I can do to better protect him. I'm not sure what I can do at this point since he doesn't want to leave.
Last edited by NL1720; 05-15-2005 at 05:27 PM.
Reason: spelling correction
Big heart, small wallet.
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Re: Update!!! I found my son!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Anyone have an opinion as to what I should do here? He's not really intending to move anywhere. Comments?
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Re: Update!!! I found my son!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Originally Posted by
NL1720
Anyone have an opinion as to what I should do here? He's not really intending to move anywhere. Comments?
hmmm that's a tough one to call since he doesn't want to move away from his friends....my son and I moved to the next county and into a new school system and we had a long talk and he just hates it in the new school....so I made a deal with him that I would let him go back to his old school which is about 25 miles from where we live because I still work close to his school as long as he can get up a half an hour earlier to go with me in the morning. The other option (LOL Which is NOT an option in my book) is to let him live with his father who lives near the school. I dunno what your circumstances are but is it an option for you to have him live with you and still let him go to the same school?? Or is it possible to move closer to him?
A wise man once said - if given enough rope, one will eventually hang themself
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Re: Update!!! I found my son!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Originally Posted by
lassss
hmmm that's a tough one to call since he doesn't want to move away from his friends....my son and I moved to the next county and into a new school system and we had a long talk and he just hates it in the new school....so I made a deal with him that I would let him go back to his old school which is about 25 miles from where we live because I still work close to his school as long as he can get up a half an hour earlier to go with me in the morning. The other option (LOL Which is NOT an option in my book) is to let him live with his father who lives near the school. I dunno what your circumstances are but is it an option for you to have him live with you and still let him go to the same school?? Or is it possible to move closer to him?
Well, he would probably need a car because I couldn't drive him there and back. I'm gonna stay focused for now on getting the surgery that he needs. It's gonna be a big enough fight for his dad to sign an agreement.
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Re: Update!!! I found my son!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
if it was me i dont think i would put any extra pressure on him sounds like he has enough..and wouldnt want to push him til he thought his dad was right you wanted something from him...cause that is how kids think...and let me say very nice looking young man.....sounds like he is grown up for his age and been lookin out for himself for sometime...its a good thing he has friends that are that good and their parents must know how hard it is for him or they wouldnt let him stay extended days like that...hope you get his knee surgery...and goodluck and congrats on finding him and reuniting him and his sister...
You can find me out where the pavement ends and the west begins.........wide open spaces.........
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Re: Update!!! I found my son!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
(((HUGS)))) I am glad you two are reunited!
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