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Drill Sergeant or Major Pushover?
Lack of discipline is at the heart of why children turn out spoiled. Are you strict, lenient, or somewhere in between? Take our test and find out.
1. Your two-year-old wants to play with your china on a hard kitchen floor. You:
A. Ignore her; you never liked that set of plates anyway.
B. Remove the child and the object and redirect the toddler's attention.
C. Slap her hand and shout, "No!"
2. It's past midnight on Friday and you're watching the end of David Letterman. In strolls your son, who was supposed to be home at midnight. You:
A. Give him a tongue-lashing and ground him for a week effective immediately.
B. Continue watching TV. Kids will be late and at least he's all right.
C. Explain that if he must be late, please call.
3. You and your family are enjoying dinner. Your daughter, however, has a milk moustache and chews with her mouth open. You:
A. Can't bear even looking at this Neanderthal, so you send her to her room.
B. Explain that she needs to work on her manners or you will never take her out to dinner.
C. Don't think manners mean that much. If she wants to look that way when she eats, that's her problem.
4. You and your child are at the local department store. Your child insists on having a new toy. When his needs are not met, he begins to have a temper tantrum and throws himself to the floor. You:
A. Scream louder than your child and insist that you are not happy with this behavior.
B. Remove the child from the store. Hold the child gently until he regains control.
C. Give in, realizing you'd rather have your child stop crying than to be humiliated in front of all these people.
5. Your preschooler draws on the wall with crayons. You:
A. Put your child on time-out to allow her to think about the misbehavior.
B. Afterwards, show the child how to clean up the mess.
C. Quietly say, "That's a nice picture, but you shouldn't draw on the wall." Then walk away.
D. Shout, "That is unacceptable! I'm never going to buy you crayons again!"
6. As you sit by the window reading the newspaper, you notice a car pull up. Out stumbles your daughter. As she fumbles with the key to get in the door, you prepare your speech on drinking. You:
A. Say "I am glad you did not drive, but underage drinking is not acceptable."
B. Tell her if it happens again, the punishment will be severe.
C. Say "Glad you made it home," figuring her hangover will be punishment enough.
D. Yell at her until she passes out and ground her indefinitely in the morning.
7. Your child destroys his toys. You:
A. Tell him that this will be the last time you take a toy to the store to be repaired.
B. Don't replace the toys. Let your child learn that if he destroys his toys, he'll have nothing to play with.
C. Shout at him that no one will ever want to play with him if he keeps ruining his toys.
8. When you get home, you see your car is missing. As you are about to call the police, your teenage son, who just got his license, pulls up with his friend. You:
A. Flip out completely, telling him he will never hang out with that friend again.
B. Explain that he needs permission to drive the family car.
C. Ask him if the tank is full, because you just put gas in it yesterday.
9. Every time you take a phone call, your child whines, "Mommy, pleeeeeeeease play with me." You:
A. Shout, "Can't you see that I'm on the phone? I'll be with you when I am done talking!"
B. Hang up immediately. You certainly don't want to hear that for the next 10 minutes.
C. Say to her that you don't understand her when she speaks like that. When she uses her regular voice you will be able to listen to her.
10. Your 16-year-old daughter has a big date tonight. As she descends the stairs, you see she resembles a scantily-clad pop star more than your little girl. You:
A. Say, "There is no way you're leaving the house looking like that!"
B. Tell her you wish she'd wear clothes that were a little less revealing.
C. Didn't even know she had a date.
I made a 20 -- but I didn't answer 2,4, or 8 because I didn't agree with the options presented.
Q2 & Q8 - it depends on the situation - was he thirty minutes late or two hours ? School night or weekend ? At work or with friends ? Is this a habit or an occasional thing ? Circumstances would have a lot to do with my response.
Q4 -I let them scream and yell while I starnd there and ignore them -- burns out much faster when they do not get the reaction they want. I do not drive, so coming back later for items isn't always an option. Their behavior is not going to dictate my actions.