Keeping the Gender of a 2-Year-Old Secret - Page 2 - Big Big Forums

YankeeMary · 07-03-2009, 04:36 AM

Remember "Pat" from SNL??? LOL.

whatever · 07-03-2009, 02:22 PM

I'm torn on an opinion on this one. I find it very odd. However its the parents decision how to raise the child. I would NOT want someone to tell me HOW to raise my child. HOWEVER that being said as the child gets older and (I assume they will let "it" play with other kids........If they tell the child NOT to disclose "its" gender to them if asked by a child....well than that is telling a child to lie. And then you are creating (IMO) a form of child abuse. Because pretty soon the child could start to cross lines from right and wrong....
Because as they get older it would get ALOT messier IMO.

gmyers · 07-03-2009, 02:52 PM

Sounds like these are parents that think they know everything. I bet their doctor has advised them against what they're doing but they know best. This poor kid is going to resent them in the future I bet. Especially when it becomes a teenager. Talk about setting someone up to have a split personality.

***ahippiechic*** · 07-03-2009, 03:08 PM

Not disclosing your gender isn't lying. And I'm sure 'it' knows what gender it is and what those parts are for (at it's age, to urinate with) And I hate the whole 'pink is for girls, blue is for boys' 'girls like dolls, boys like trucks' kinda shyt. But they're taking to an extreme.

My girl is just as rowdy/loud/likes guns and trucks as my son was/did. I tried to keep gender classification away from my kids & let them form their own personality and traits with out being influenced by what gender they are, but it's impossible.

Kinda OT but my grandmother wore dresses her whole life, even when she had rather had worn pants. But she never felt comfortable in the pants because she had been taught her whole life that women did not wear pants. So here's this woman plowing, planting, feeding etc, in a dress. I thought that was so totally stupid.

I hate it that they even ask your sex on applications for school, employment etc. Or race either. If you're qualified, you're qualified, no matter what sex or color.

Njean31 · 07-03-2009, 08:59 PM

freaks.....................they need to be investigated for child abuse. you don't do social experiments of this sort on your own kids.

pepperpot · 07-03-2009, 09:14 PM

I believe in 'free expression' for children.......my house was/is full of trucks and Barbie dolls, etc.....the children feel like playing with whateer they choose. I never hid their gender, never felt the need to. They often chose their own clothes as well.....

We're they influenced by the 'world around them' as to their 'gender'/preferences? Sure......but they also never felt that it was a secret as to what body parts they have.....they got what they got (gender), they are who they are and they play and dress to their liking.

These parents are pushing their own agendas on an unsuspecting, innocent child. Why make him/her keep secrets? Your body parts are what they are.....you behave and choose what you choose....(clothes & toys)....

If one makes it a 'big deal', then it becomes a 'big deal'......

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Njean31 · 07-05-2009, 11:07 PM

why not let little girls be girls and little boys be boys? wth has gone wrong with the world? you can have tomboy's and lil boy's who like dolls but don't play around with this stuff. let the kid be what they will. without doing retarded "studies"............

people are born male or female.........you got a penis or a vagina. seems to me like sometimes....very rarely....hormones get "retarded".....yes that is a legitimate word that is not derogatory.....and a male ends up with a lil too much estrogen and vise versa a female ends up with a lil too much testosterone. here is where we have to be delicate....not with those who have the right balance. people take it overboard. trying to prove something they don't have a clue about.