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Originally Posted by janelle
I have a flash for you---they are using a baseball bat right now. Did you read the article Jolie posted? Sorry Jolie, Surfergal posted it. You post so much I just thought it was you. LOL 
I don't think as many would have an abortion. Before it was legal, getting pregnant without being married was a scandal, now it doesn't have that stigma. And we have people ready and willing to help all they can. I wish we had adoption centers instead of abortion centers. |
This is not a flash, I read the same thread. Although that case was an obvious adoption situation, look at the result. Which proves my point, to a degree, if you make abortions completely illegal, people will find a way to abort or miscarry on purpose, to avoid certain situations. Where as if it was an option, that was looked down on but still available, and could be done in a clean AMA guidline run facility then you start to see a change.
Now, about the stigma that you mentioned, I just happen to have a story for you. A couple that we know found out that they were pregnant before we got married. When they announced this to everyone, the father's family (southern baptists) wouldn't speak to him for a while, even his own sister. Now you must know that he was considering dumping her before hand and moving back to Florida, then she became pregnant. So what did they do; they got married? Why, because it was the 'right thing to do'. Now this child was born and is showing symptoms of PTSD. The reason he is exerting these symptoms is because his father drinks and pretty loud, and very agressive. His mother didn't want the pregancy, but was iving to live with it, and she doesn't feel like she has a good bond. The childs parents fight, a lot, and have just recently moved to Florida to be closer to his family, and we wouldn't be surprised if she came back alone, divorced and childless.
Now, they got married, as I said before, because it was 'the right thing to do'. Right thing for who, the child who is subjected to his parents arguements and alcholic rages? Or right for his parents who pretty much can't stand each other and she was quoted in saying she would leave him if he wasn't so good around his kid? (Note: he does love his son, and has a good bonfd with him, but he doesn't do anything to curb the boy's behavior.) Or was it right for his family, they won't feel so bad if there is a child in the world as long as the parents are married. Or is it right by GOD?
I feel bad for them, the mother is my wife's cousin and long time friend. But, don't you see...being married doesn't make you a parent, having a child does. They shouldn't have gotten married, he should have broken up with her so that he would be such a destructive force in her or the child's life. I mean to say, if they weren't subjected to the pressures of being married then things would probably have been better for all party's. But who's to know, all I know is that teo people who really don't get along got married because of a child. It is still possible to raise a child and not be married.