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Jolie Rouge · 08-04-2003, 05:48 PM

Reason Men Become Good Husbands

If you have a wonderful husband or boyfriend, thank his mother. A new study from Ferrum College in Virginia says men who become wonderful partners are often the product of wonderful moms, reports Reuters. The researchers interviewed 33 young couples--some of whom were married and some of whom were dating--and found what they called "significant" correlations between a man's tie to his mother and his partner's satisfaction with the relationship. "If he's very close to his mother he may feel very close to his partner, probably very affectionate," lead researcher Sarah Roberts explained to Reuters. She and her co-author, psychologist Sharon Stein, say that while much research has been done about the parent-child relationship in general, very little is known about the impact the mother-son relationship has on the son's relationship with his girlfriend or wife.

The "Mama's Boy or Lady's Man" study:

Each male and female member of the 33 couples completed different questionnaires. The men were asked about their perceived closeness to their moms. The women were asked about their own satisfaction with their romantic relationship.

The results:

In general, the men who said they had moms who "understood their needs" also had mates who described them as "affectionate." Men who had a strong love for their mothers tended to date women who described them as not only their lover, but also "their best friend," Reuters reports. And the men who tried hard to "make their mother proud" ranked high in terms of their ability to communicate with their female partner.

Why does this happen?

"In traditional homes, the mother is the very first person that the children have (as their) introduction to femininity," Roberts said in an interview with Reuters. "Their mother is, for the male child, their first study of what a woman is. So of course they watch her behaviors, they watch certain things coming from her, and of course are influenced by everything she may teach them." She speculates that in addition to influencing her son to be more open and gentle with other people, she may influence his choice in a mate. "If the mother is very loving, very caring, and displays this to her son, he may be in a position where he's thinking, 'Well, I want a woman like my mother,' or 'I don't want a woman like my mother,'" Roberts explained.

There's just one problem:

If the mother is too close--as in, the son perceives her as his best friend--her son was usually labeled "less-than-considerate" by his significant other. "I think it's clear it can go either way," Roberts told Reuters. "There's the question of 'how much is too much?' If he's too close to his mother, might not that be an obstacle for his spouse?" The study findings were presented at the annual meeting of the American Psychological Society.

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Jolie Rouge C & P Queen Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: Lan astaslem ! Posts: 38,136 iTrader: (2) Thanks: 1,465 Thanked 3,534 Times in 1,949 Posts	Reason Men Become Good Husbands If you have a wonderful husband or boyfriend, thank his mother. A new study from Ferrum College in Virginia says men who become wonderful partners are often the product of wonderful moms, reports Reuters. The researchers interviewed 33 young couples--some of whom were married and some of whom were dating--and found what they called "significant" correlations between a man's tie to his mother and his partner's satisfaction with the relationship. "If he's very close to his mother he may feel very close to his partner, probably very affectionate," lead researcher Sarah Roberts explained to Reuters. She and her co-author, psychologist Sharon Stein, say that while much research has been done about the parent-child relationship in general, very little is known about the impact the mother-son relationship has on the son's relationship with his girlfriend or wife. The "Mama's Boy or Lady's Man" study: Each male and female member of the 33 couples completed different questionnaires. The men were asked about their perceived closeness to their moms. The women were asked about their own satisfaction with their romantic relationship. The results: In general, the men who said they had moms who "understood their needs" also had mates who described them as "affectionate." Men who had a strong love for their mothers tended to date women who described them as not only their lover, but also "their best friend," Reuters reports. And the men who tried hard to "make their mother proud" ranked high in terms of their ability to communicate with their female partner. Why does this happen? "In traditional homes, the mother is the very first person that the children have (as their) introduction to femininity," Roberts said in an interview with Reuters. "Their mother is, for the male child, their first study of what a woman is. So of course they watch her behaviors, they watch certain things coming from her, and of course are influenced by everything she may teach them." She speculates that in addition to influencing her son to be more open and gentle with other people, she may influence his choice in a mate. "If the mother is very loving, very caring, and displays this to her son, he may be in a position where he's thinking, 'Well, I want a woman like my mother,' or 'I don't want a woman like my mother,'" Roberts explained. There's just one problem: If the mother is too close--as in, the son perceives her as his best friend--her son was usually labeled "less-than-considerate" by his significant other. "I think it's clear it can go either way," Roberts told Reuters. "There's the question of 'how much is too much?' If he's too close to his mother, might not that be an obstacle for his spouse?" The study findings were presented at the annual meeting of the American Psychological Society. __________________ Laissez les bon temps rouler! Going to church doesn't make you a Christian any more than standing in a garage makes you a car. a 4 day work week & sex slaves ~ I say Tyt for PRESIDENT!** Not to be taken internally, literally or seriously ....Suki ebaynni IS THAT BETTER ?